POSITIVITY IS NOT ALWAYS POSITIVE

whitneysavageau
Feb 16, 2020
3 min read

what's up savages?! howww you dooooinnnnnn

Gonna be completely honest here, February has been kicking my ass. sometimes i just feel like im drowning and i can't even see the surface to even attempt to get air. and yes i know, that when "bad things happen it helps you realize the good" and all of those sayings. i get it, we all get it. but that doesn't mean i need someone telling me that "someone else has it worse" or some kinda bullshit like that.

because guess what, in life, there will always be someone above you and someone below you. there will always be someone who has it better and someone who has it worse.

just because that is the reality of life, does not mean you don't have a right to feel how you're feeling; no matter how big or small. if it makes you feel a specific way, then that's how you feel and you should be able to process that.

sometimes your positivity push, is making someone else feel like less than what they really are. lets focus more on what people are really feeling. if people are just sitting around saying that you "need to look at the upside" or some sort of thing.. sure that's great, and yes we are all well aware we need to look at the up side of things. but what we need to do more - is process.

when someone comes to you to vent or comes to you when they have a lot going on in their life: ask them this: "do you just want me to listen, do you want my advice, or opinion?" because it's hard when someone is hurting or going through things to communicate that with you, they are blinded by what they are feeling; yet they are still coming to you because they trust you and need someone right then.

we need to have time to understand what we're feeling and what happened to make us feel that way - so then we can change and look at more positive ways to react to what just happened. so if you sit there shoving your positive quotes and things down someones throat who may be in this situation for the first time and reaching out to you (psa: venting is a way that people reach out without even realizing it.) they are too busy focusing trying to keep a positive outlook and stressing about how they have to stay positive and be better without being able to understand why they ended up feeling that way or how.

i'm not saying people who are insanely positive are bad people. but sometimes you need to take a step back and understand that life isn't just sunshine all the time. be realistic. things happen, people hurt. but next time, maybe ask if they even want your advice .. ask if they want your positive quotes and shit shoved down their throat. because chances are - they just want you to be there. they just want someone to listen to them.. and that's it.

all im saying is pay attention to how people are feeling. if they want you to give them that positive push - give it. but sometimes, the way you say things could just be hurting them more or making them overthink.

thanks for hanging out

thee savage