Say what you mean.

whitneysavageau
May 19, 2019
3 min read

it really is THAT simple.

sit tight everyone. this one is a pretty big rant.. so some not so pretty words might be thrown around some. (i get as heated about this as i do about promise rings and valentines day.. to each their own, but damn some things just really get to me. this is one of those things).

honestly, people need to have tougher skin and not let EVERY. LITTLE. THING. bother them. especially when someone is trying to communicate with someone else.

i don't get why everyone thinks is so hard to say what they feel or what they need/want.

it's not that hard. open your damn mouth, say what you need. if you don't get what you need by just talking, figure out how you can.

you can get anything you want if you just work for it. or say what you need to help get you to that point. - no, things aren't going to just be handed to you if you say what you want [which isn't how it should be anyway], but there are things that can be done to help you get those things, if you. just. speak. up.

one of the most annoying things to me that has bothered me for A LONG ASS TIME is when people will say "okay don't talk to me" ... then get mad when said person doesn't talk tot them. THAT IS SO FUCKING STUPID. if you don't want to talk to someone, tell them that and mean it. call it a fucking day. if you're getting pissed off by someone, say that, let them know. ..... but if you REALLY don't want to talk to someone, don't get mad at them for leaving you alone when that's what you asked for! that's how you fuck with someones trust and understanding of you and other people too. that's how you make them unsure and that's how you end up fighting because you can't communicate what you actually want or need.

i understand trust issues, i understand not wanting to open up right away, which is fine.. but how is someone in your life (friends, family, s/o, anything else) going to help you stay happy if you can't just tell them what you ACTUALLY want.

you don't have to be rude about it. that's not what i'm saying. it is easy to just say "i don't want to talk to you right now" and the other person should understand that it is okay for someone to feel how they're feeling and want time to process those feelings.

when you say "i'm fine" mean it. if you're not fine, say you're not, and then follow with not wanting to talk about it; if someone can't accept that then that's a them issue. everyone has a right to feel what ever they may be feeling and process it how they want to. they also have the right and should feel comfortable with not sharing in that moment in time or at all honestly.

just because you tell someone how you feel also doesn't mean it needs to be confrontational. you can easily express how you feel without creating an argument.

if you want to talk to someone, then don't tell them to leave you alone. if you want them to leave you alone, say that. all of the back and forth is pointless. playing games is stupid, it is a waste of time for everyone. don't say one thing and then act a different way, it is again.. a waste of everyone's time and games that no one wants to play or take part in.

and there's my 'little' rant on how obnoxious it is when people don't say how they feel or what they need. .. it makes life and everything so much easier if you just speak up. communicate. open your mouth. nothing is going to change if you don't say anything and if you don't .. remember, the answer will always be no, if you don't ask.

as always, thanks for reading! leave a comment or tell me how you're feeling or even what you ate today, anything .. and if you log in, you'll get emails about when i post! (fancy right, i know😉)

Lets tackle the rest of this week ... after we get in a good nap anyway.

~ the savage🤘