stop trying 'to know me' over snapchat

whitneysavageau
Oct 16, 2019
3 min read

we all love thee savage whitney.. so, here she is. unfiltered and completely over it.

Personal opinion [& I'm not sorry if this offends you.]

Trying to get to know me on snapchat is like giving me a promise ring;

It's not real & the commitment is half assed, just like your means of communication.

and honestly this goes for all social media platforms. don't try and get to know me on a personal level just by sending me messages into my inbox and calling it a day. that is not effort to me. call it what you want, but that's just how i am, if you disagree then you clearly aren't for me anyway.

Phones are still a thing. You know that, it's in your hand every damn day.

You can call. Even face time.

WEIRD RIGHT. Or you can even make plans with me - ya know, like, in person??

What a weird fucking concept; being with someone in person, getting to know who they actually are, what they like, their little tics and everything in between are.

Snapchat is not a way I want to 'get to know' someone, even if you've been in my life for a long time and are just now resurfacing into it or if we're crossing paths again.

It honestly shouldn’t be a way you get to know anyone? Sure it's fun just like most social platforms, and you get to see them - which is why I like it, because you get to see them.. but trying to get to know me on a real level ….. on an app?? Honestly you can see yourself out at that point.

I share a lot about my life, which I never use to do, you know that if you see my posts all the time and every day. But there is also a lot of things that I don't share for other reasons.

1. they're not always mine too but I cross paths with people who share things with me and it affects me in certain ways, which you wouldn't know over fucking snapchat.

2. if I ACTUALLY open up to you, consider yourself someone I hold close to my heart because I don't do that shit with everyone because let's be honest a lot of people don’t know how to handle it.

3. it's no one else's business unless it's affecting me in a way that ends up affecting you because you're that close with me (i.e. best friends, family, or a s/o.)

you simply cannot get to know someone in the way that actually matters, on a personable and wholeheartedly way over just social media and apps. people have all these beautiful little traits that make them, them. and there is no possible way to get to understand someone with all their little ticks that make them who they are over social media. maybe they have a little nervous blink every so often, maybe they fidget with their jewelry when they're getting anxious or excited. you won't know any of these things just by snapchat or some other app. stop using it that way.

wondering why i'm being a bitch or annoying after i have told you countless times i don't like snapchat? that's one of the reasons why.

there are so many people i just don't have energy for. we don't match up. our vibes just aren't right for each other, which is why you think im being a cold hearted bitch. other than the fact that i am a lot of times, if i actually have interest in you - i'll tell you that, or make it so blatantly obvious that it'll hit you harder than a hangover. i wear my heart on my sleeve and i'm proud of that, its more than most people can say. which i am proud of. sure some times it has really ruined a situation because i want to talk about things and get them out of the way RIGHT THEN, but i’d much rather do that- then let it eat me alive for days while i continuously get irritated that we still haven’t discussed it.

social media shouldn't be used as a way to get to know someone, period. just because we are in a technology generation doesn't mean that's how you get to know someone.

communicate. in person.

be in the moment with them.

which seems weird coming from me, since i love my social media, sure. but trying to keep up on apps with everyone is exhausting and i don't want to put my time to an app, if i'm trying to get to know the real you, and i wont. if people want to make an effort, they will. so see yourself out of my “love life” or the lack there of, if you think you can get to know me through any social media.

thanks for stopping by

thee savage 🤘🏻